I need some advice... Can anyone help me out...

I need some advice I hope u guys can help me ok ^^
If I go out with this amazing guy that is like a perfect guy for me EXCEPT HIS HEIGHT HE KINDA SHORT LOL but..

I like someone else and I don't know what to do...
Cuz there both very kind hearted guys and well I don't want to regret my decision... Cuz if I do I will be the one that feels bad...

(Sometimes I hate myself for falling in love cuz once I fall in love I lose the love and start loving someone else )

I wish sometimes I can't love cuz it would be easier...
But its not...

So if any one can help me I would totally appreciated

Erm... So basically you love two guys now? ^^;; That does make stuff kinda difficult. Hahaa.

It all depends on who you really like. That's the politically correct answer to give, anyway. XD

Is this other guy you mentioned as 'perfect' for you as the first guy? 'Cause from the way you said it, it's kinda like you really like the first guy, just that he's a bit short. But judging from your profile and assuming that the guy is around the same age as you, don't let height bother you as boys usually get their growth spurts around that age.


It's great to see more people posting about personal stuff on the forums. Shows that there's some trust among us, eh? XD;;

There should always be love in life ! It would mean so much less without it. Sure, it's not always easy, and hearts can be broken (I can tell), but then again, what IS easy in life ?!

Don't only chose based on a person's looks. I know a couple where the man is shorter than his wife, but they're a match made in heaven. So I'd really not take that as an argument to say "Maybe not him."

Just like tanth already said, to me is sounds too as if you really like the first guy very much.
All I can say is, don't think of just the outside, don't make hasty choices, and most importantly, do as your heart tells.

Aw, Aya. Have your heart been broken before? *brings out mending thread*
Love is a complicated thing. lol! Just go in with your (gut XD) feelings, that's what counts in love, unlike other matters. Hahaa!

Yes, height is no barrier to love. Watch Lovely Complex and you'll understand. Yea, you can say it's only an anime, but still, like Aya pointed out, there are some couple out there with females shorter than their male counterparts. So it's really no big problem.

My heart has indeed been stepped on. Not that many times (luckily), but I know what it feels to have ‘love pain’. I’ll keep the details to myself though

Yep, it requires some guts and having faith in your feelings to love properly.

Nice example, tanth ! ^^

D: It's their loss for not picking you, Aya.
Hahaa. Sure, it's natural for people to want to keep their personal information to themselves. XD

Hahaa. That show really left a deep impression on me. It's really touching, so it came to my mind immediately on a height complex in love.

hmm...
I just broke up with him...
to only just be his friend...
Cuz I don't think I'm ready to go out with people...
cuz when they ask me out the guys never break my heart but i do and I feel terrible even though still good friends...

Thats why i should stya single and focus on school and friends and thats it now haha !!

And thanx for trying to help me =)

Wise choice, Rose. I'm glad you've got things worked out.

Take things easy. We all learn as we grow, it's great how you're mature enough to understand the circumstances of your relationship.

Well said, tanth.

You can't force things in life. I know you have taken a wise choice, Rose-chan.
There was this girl I liked very very much, but I couldn't 'win' her hearth. I realized it would probably not work out between us a couple. Eventually, she became my best friend, and we have the most of fun you can ever imagine. So I'm glad I made that choice back then.

And you've got a good point there, Rose-chan, about being single works out best when you still have to focus on school. Me too, I've decided to remain single until my life reaches a prefect balance (in my case, when I get fully adapted to worklife and have saved a decent amount of money to maintain my household).

True True me agree with Aya
My first proirity ( Grr I can't spell it !!)
Is to finish school, get a nice job, a house, money and everything...
Like everthing well balanced then I will get someone...

But for now I just flirt haha !!!
I like flirtying with people but not in a slutty way lol !!
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But I rarely have any friends that are girls haha !!!
Cuz they cause too much drama
And me hate that

When I hang out with my guy friends they treat me like one of there brothers and I love that haha !!!

OH NOW IT MAKES ME WISH I HAD A BROTHER !!!

Girls are indeed very 'drama' as you put it. All those backstabbing and reading too much into everything. But then again, not all girls are like that, try to find some female friends who share the same interests as you!

Brothers are cool. Especially when they're elder brothers and they dote on you. XDXDXD

Flirting is fine. I do it too every now and then, mainly when I go out (like eg. to a concert).

Especially at that age. But like tanth said, not all of them are like that (luckily ).

@ posts above - Yes, true, all of us have been scarred at one or multiple points of our lives. Whether it's love or friends or family. But keep in mind that there's always something good in the corner. And advice like HiddenRose asks for:

1.) If you dont feel anything anymore for the guy, break up. If you linger, you will only hurt yourselves more

2.) Cherish the moments. Don't be stingy with your emotions. Tell him?her your feelings. And get to know each other again every once in a while, if you know what I mean.

3.) Learn to differentiante love from infatuation. Trust me, you NEED to learn this.
I hope you people find this usefull ^^V

Tanth: I got female friends which i'm happy cuz we act silly and joke around alot lol
And I'm happy I can see them in highschool hehe ^^
But i'm nervous about highschool its my 1st year and i hate alot of ppl and strangers lol !
Cuz I get very awkward and scared... If my friends aren't there...


I wish i had a brother....
but what my friend said She said I'm lucky not to have a brother haha !!

Pulse: Thank you for the advice ^^
But my english got horrible not in typing english its good but knowing the meaning of words I cannot remember anymore since I've been watching too many asian's drama this summer >.<

What did you mean by...
" Learn to differentiante love from infatuation. "
?????

Love is the emotion in which people feel special emotion towards each other which leads to commitment and acceptance. It is considered a blissful feeling and is one of the ultimate rewards in life.

Infatuation is called the "false love" where a person feels what he or she thinks is love and immediately acts according to his or her own emotions.

It's kind of hard to explain but here are some examples.

Love
Guy: "I know you're there and I can wait. Let's not rush this and thnk about it and when we're ready we'll talk about it

Infatuation
Guy: I want you. I need you now. Please be mine! I need you!



See the difference?

Wow...Pulse you got a great point there about Love hahaha...So it can be use as a signal of Love and both Athrun-Cagalli did that at GSD, no need to rush hahah *grin*

@HiddenRose : yup, me too..I got a bit scared when I am about come into new environment 'coz we'll meet stranger and we'd have to adapt in that community ^^ (sorry for the english ya??)
but think as this, it's not you the only one got that feeling so can a bit relax (hope you can make good friends)

Hm, and for the relationship you got involved with boys.......No comment hahah, Never been in any romantic relationship before hahaha... and still waiting for the 'right' man ne

Good luck for you

Pulse : Yes i do that alot !!!!
That false love...
I do that I think...
Well i always say i'm in love with them but then afterwards i don't love with them no more is that bad...?
I think its bad... >.<

Toumarie : I understand what your saying ^^
Thanx ^^

My love life i had is horrible !
I'm always very inconsistent ( I think thats the word)
Like once I like the person and they don't interest me no more I just automatically break up with them.


And Luck... I do not need...
I don't believe in luck haha ^^

@ HR - Yes, it's bad. People always feel lonely and want someone beside them to be with and exchange warm feelings. But the wrong is, people tend to rush it. As for me, I used to love this person... He was so "steady" and kind. But what really caught me was his eyes. They were so fierce but peaceful. we were so happy for two years until "it" happened and I left him for both our sakes. Currently, im at peace with myself and im enjoying being single.

@ Toumarie - thank you very much for the compliment! ^^V

@HiddenRose : Glad you can understand me ^^ and good luck for you again ^^

@Pulse : You're welcome ^^

Pulse:Thats good hehe ^^
Well anyways I'm sick of my lovelife ^^
I just wait patiently cuz i know something good might come someday ^^

Well I'm getting bored with this conversation for some reason lol !!!
Sorry i sound dumb ^^

Anyways !
Thank you Pulse and toumarie ^^

It's no problem. Don't hesitate to ask us if you have any problems. ^^V